I've never understood why women are so competitve with each other. Honestly. I've been guilty of it and I'm sure every woman has at one point in her life. I just don't understand, but I really do, why women feel the need to outshine each other.

Here's a case. My roommate. By the way, I love how last  year I bitched about how loud and rude my roommates were and this year I love how I talk about how lazy she is. Anyway....my roommate always feels the need to outshine. Here are some examples:
Me: "I would love to go to NYU!"  Her: "I could have definitely gotten into NYU if I applied."
Me: "I got my advanced Regents diploma."  Her: "Well hell, I passed all those test too and I didn't get that. That must be some shit Williamson made up."  Yeah, like you can make up a diploma
Me: "I would have loved to applied to be an OA but I have to take physics."  Her: "Oh I know I can get that job because I have a GREAT personality!"  Um, too bad Phyilis was begging me to be an OA and I could have skipped the entire process
Me: "I would never model in Black Explosion."  Her: "I should model because I have GREAT legs!"
Me: "I've always wanted to be on Road Rules/The Real World. I think I have the whole package." Her: "Um no. You would disgrace the black community. Me on the other hand, they would definitely pick me."  She also thinks that she could audition for American Idol and make it through to Hollywood.

See what I'm saying. In none of the situations was I trying to compete with anyone but she always felt the need to outshine me. I invited her to Spring Break at the beginning of the year. She said she wouldn't be able to go because she was going to the Carribean with her dad. Now she's talking with her best friend trying to find somewhere to go. HELLO!!! The only thing she had to pay for was a plane ticket and spending money because my parents were supplying her with everything else. In case you haven't figured it out, her picture belongs next to vain in the dictionary because she is constantly in the mirror talking about how good she looks and how dudes are always trying to get with her. No offense but the dudes sweating her aren't all that. Her last dude only liked her because she did just about anything for him. Fuck that. You better get your ass off the couch and go get your own damn chinese food. Let me just say this though. For someone who always tries to outshine me, she has picked up a lot of my ways. My hair products, my chewing gum, my fat free milk which was huge because she was so dead set on 2% Milk only, my medicines, and my political campaigns (ONE and (RED)). So I guess I can't be that much of a disgrace to the black community because someone is definitely turning into me ....or at least trying too.

I'm sorry but when you constantly try to outshine someone there is a  huge problem. Here it is: You are extremely insecure with yourself. Don't try to put that off as "I'm not cocky, I'm just confident." Bitch please. The most beautiful women in the world don't go around telling magazines how beautiful they are so why do you feel the need to? That's called cocky and insecure and you need to chill out. When you realize that your friendships with other women are disappearing at a high rate, take a hint! No one wants to be around someone who is always talking about themselves or trying to find something that they can outshine you in.

Ladies, who have a friend like this, knock her ass down a few levels even if you have to mention it numerous times. Don't joke about it either. Be honest and be real. That's the only way she'll take the hint.

So many women say, that if women ruled the world there would be no wars. HA! What were they thinking...

OH MY GAWD!! I know those types of girls all to well, in my group home it was always one big competition to see who had the most abusive parents, "My parent's molested me" "So, I was beaten with a hose", "Oh yeah, well my parents killed my little brother" -- it was the sickest, pity parety/competition ever! Why can't people just talk about themselves without other people having to turn the conversation on them? I could never understand it, I think people just like to hear about themselves, even if it has to be them doing the talking.

speaking of OA's (you mean Orientation Advisor right?), I was in CT this past weekend and met somebody from UB that knows you...I think his name is Ola maybe? Anyways....yea it just made me think of you! :)

All the women I know are right bitchy. Cept me.

Saturday, March 31st 2007 @ 11:58 PM